At this point I would have given up with their people but they have a rule that you must be seeing a therapist if you're getting drugs from the psychiatrist once a month. Lets hear it for Ritalin that's helping fuel this web site. If it wasn't for this one good egg psychiatrist I'd be asking for all my money back. I am only asking they are run out of town.

This psychiatrist told me to tell Dr Grosset what I told him about my troubles finding someone. So I wrote her a letter. In it I told her of absurdities from the past including seven years earlier a therapist felt free to laugh in my face and then got very uptight went I asked. "How would you describe your self" and didn't. A few months after I wrote that letter I think I met that very same loser, Debby, for a second time now seven years later. Amazing how we were thrown together by fate. I never heard from Dr Grosset.

At the end of session number two with Debby I gave her two things I wrote in the past for her to read and to talk about the next time. She implied that she would not read them and didn't. I was ten minutes late the next time. She had the time read them. Just three pages total and a much better read than this web site. But it was the safest bet on Wall Street that she would not. Just one more hell with you in my face.

I had to bring it up before all the time was out. She said she read 'some of it' but never made one reference to the contents. I want to point out that three out of three therapist couldn't complete the two easy tasks of reading a few pages I wrote and put them in my record. Never mind also give any feedback. That is the reality of their performance. The content was amazingly very much on subject. I told of four or five different times I jumped into action to save lives. One conclusion / lesson, "written on a page from me to you", being always have a concerned eye out. And it was a true ghost story. At one of the accident scenes, in walking distance of The Guidance Center, there was a fatality. The other thing was an email I sent to an X- friend that decided to be a psychopath a long time ago. It was the second time in twenty years I had to spelled out what a total ass he is and goodbye. These are very juicy written accounts of real life that any good therapist lives for. But she just wanted to belittle them without ever reading them. To compensate for her pathetic existence. 

Amazing how such opposites like me and Debby were thrown together.

I had to stop the music and say, There's something that really bothers me what you said the first time we met. You said, "If someone on the street tells you they're suicidal that's one thing but here we have an ethical and legal obligation to do something.". She didn't say a thing and just stared at me with a big dumb psychopath grin on her face. The more I was expecting her to say anything the bigger her grin got. It was creepy. Let's frieze frame here. She's not going anywhere.

Lets flash back many many years to a Guidance Center day rehab morning meeting. David, in charge, made the announcements, "You know Kevin he kind of kept to himself. He ended his life early this morning by standing in front of a train. And today's lunch is meatloaf.".

Lets flash back to a guy in bed with a plastic bag over his head. The indifference and environment that any staff will laugh in the face of a patient was a clear contributing factor.

Lets flash back to when after a stay in a mental hospital the husband of Jessica Savage, a NBC news anchor women, hangs himself in his basement with his wife's dog's leash.

Lets flash back to the Virginia Tech mass murder when he got very good samples of the system and it's people and didn't see it as a place to turn his life around.

And lets flash back when a close friend of mine told me how she once work in a top mental hospital. She was upset when a doctor was openly indifferent about an in hospital suicide. She was not indifferent to the deceased and was trying be of help to him. She pursued that profession to help people but from what she experienced she didn't see the system geared to help anyone and dropped out. Her words.

Flash back to California to a young man who killed himself a very long time ago. The people around him did not intervene. It affected his sister here in New York. That affected me. That's affecting The Guidance Center. Far reaching? Within a week after his death he came to his sister and two other friends in a dream. In all three dreams he had the same message to tell them and was wearing the same clothes. That is far reaching.

Let's go back to Debby. Yes her dumb bright psychopathic smile just grew brighter as I grew in disbelief that she wouldn't say a thing. I believe at that point I said to her, "You really have a Fuck-You attitude toward the world don't you?" A little surprised but no reply. No denying it. Any sane person would be denying it. I said, "How could you not help a suicidal person?" Debby said, "It's their responsibility to get themselves to a hospital". She's been doing this for 7 years and a child would know better. I said, "What if the person is psychotic?" She replied, "What if the person they turn to is psychotic?". I was surprised she chose to be incoherent to the conversation. We should not rule out that she was dropping a hint about herself. To answer her now they might share their medicine see things eye to eye and live happily every after. The unfortunate better question is what happens if they get themselves to a hospital and they get a therapist like Debra Morra. It happens every day. And every day they get out of the hospital and go stand if front of a train.

I decided before I met her that I would give her at least three visits no matter what. There's always a way to find a benefit. And look this is bigger than the both of us.

Do we live in a culture that finds it easier to bury the 16,000 murders and 30,000 suicides every year rather than change what is so obviously wrong? I say NO we can do better. I say their system is so sick it needs many transplants of outsiders if it's ever to function. As it stands now anyone with half a sense of decency can't stomach the goings on in that field. So you mostly just get people with less than half a sense of decency.

The reason Deborah Morra and her like feel free to laugh in someone's face is that they know their system. Dr Grosset wont even return frantic call. As long as they can burn up the clock and fill pages that cover everyone legally and keep the insurance and government dollars flowing they are there to amuse themselves. Any level of stupidity or abuse goes.

Debby isn't 'Playing' the devil's advocate. We're looking at the real thing. I'm not demonizing her she's been brewing her cauldron for many years.

I told her, "You're a psychopath and you can go rot in hell" She was all smiles to hear that she was useless. As I was walking out she said in a voice as if it was all a big joke, "What does this mean for next week's appointment?" I said, "You're fired". I think I should have turned around, walked to her, spit in her eye and said we're on for next week. But I guess that's just not me. What did happen was I also said in colorful words this is goodbye and keep your distance. But after I had a good head start she thought it would be a fun additional harassment to run after me down two flights of stairs. She caught up to me just as I was going out the door. Right over my shoulder I turned to her and told her a sincere observation of her coldness that sent her running off.

I know this has been every lengthy. But "The devil is in the details". "Think global act local" and "If you're not part of the solution you're part of the problem". I didn't write these, they are as old as the hills, but they apply here.

Please return to this web site for updates. I'm just getting warmed up. Pick a battle to help save lives and better the world. You do what ever you can to help make change. I will be listing ways you can help. One is below. If you can tell me some effective ways I can approach the fight please email me.

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“No people will tamely surrender their liberties, nor can any be easily subdued, when knowledge is diffused and virtue is preserved.
On the contrary, when people are universally ignorant, and debauched in their manners, they will sink under their own weight without the aid of foreign invaders.”
       ~Samuel Adams
 
"One person with a belief is equal to a force of 99 who have only interests. "
     ~ John Stuart Mill


What you can do:
Give them a piece of your mind. You can call, write or fax them:

The Guidance Center
70 Grand Street
New Rochelle, NY 10801

Phone: 914-636-4440 ext: 200

Fax: 914-636-5231

Ask for the voice mail of, Deborah Morra, Roe Cappola or Dr Grosset

I didn't write the below. But this is what I mean.

What is a psychopath?

The prototypical psychopath has deficits or deviances in several areas: interpersonal relationships, emotion, and self-control. Psychopaths lack a sense of guilt or remorse for any harm they may have caused others, instead rationalizing the behavior, blaming someone else, or denying it outright. Psychopaths also lack empathy towards others in general, resulting in tactlessness, insensitivity, and contemptuousness. All of this belies their tendency to make a good, likable first impression. Psychopaths have a superficial charm about them, enabled by their low self-consciousness, a willingness to say anything without concern for accuracy or truth. This extends into their pathological lying and willingness to con and manipulate others for personal gain or amusement. The prototypical psychopath's emotions are described as a shallow affect, meaning their overall way of relating is characterized by mere displays of friendliness and other emotion for personal gain; the displayed emotion need not correlate with felt emotion, in other words. Shallow affect also describes the psychopath's tendency for genuine emotion to be short lived and egocentric with an overall cold demeanor. Their behavior impulsive and irresponsible, often failing to keep a job or defaulting on debts.^[25]

Since psychopaths cause harm through their actions, it is assumed that they are not emotionally attached to the people they harm; however, according to the PCL-R Checklist, psychopaths are also careless in the way they treat themselves. They frequently fail to alter their behavior in a way that would prevent them from enduring future discomfort. Dr. Joseph Newman contends that the behavior displayed by psychopaths is the result of "an inability to process contextual cues." ^[26]

It is thought that any emotions which the primary psychopath exhibits are the fruits of watching and mimicking other people's emotions. They show poor impulse control and a low tolerance for frustration and aggression. They have no empathy, remorse, anxiety or guilt in relation to their behavior. In short, they truly are devoid of conscience. However, they understand that society expects them to behave in a conscientious manner, and therefore they mimic this behavior when it suits their needs.

Most studies of psychopaths have taken place among prison populations. This remains a limitation on its applicability to a general population but that has not prevented fiction writers from popularizing psychopaths in the movies.

Cleckley thus defined psychopathy:^[27]

1. Superficial charm and above average intelligence. 2. Absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking. 3. Absence of nervousness or neurotic manifestations. 4. Unreliability. 5. Untruthfulness and insincerity. 6. Lack of remorse or shame. 7. Antisocial behavior without apparent compunction. 8. Poor judgment and failure to learn from experience.

9. Pathological egocentricity and incapacity to love. 10. General poverty in major affective reactions. 11. Specific loss of insight. 12. Unresponsiveness in general interpersonal relations. 13. Fantastic and uninviting behavior with drink, and sometimes without. 14. Suicide threats rarely carried out. 15. Sex life impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated. 16. Failure to follow any life plan.